Small and large steps towards the here and now: “My trust in existence is absolute. If there is any truth in what I say, it will survive. The people who are interested in my work will carry the torch, but they won't deceive anyone. I will remain the source of inspiration for my people. I want them to grow from within—qualities like love, like awareness, like celebration, having fun, and remaining unspoiled, with childlike eyes. I want my people to know for themselves, not dependent on anyone else. And the path leads inward.” OSHO. Even as a child, I sensed my high sensitivity, but I couldn't quite categorize it. Back then, I dealt with my perceptions largely on my own. At the age of 19, I attended my first seminars and workshops with spiritual teachers. The feeling of being connected intensified, but self-doubt and the often overwhelming experiences led me to break the connection at a certain point in my life, out of fear and feeling overwhelmed by what was being revealed to me. When I became pregnant for the first time at 30, the evening before the miscarriage, I saw the souls of my unborn twins, Elias and Ivy, rise up. It was an extreme and very sad experience—I knew in that moment that the children were no longer alive inside me. Later, when my daughter was born and three months old, she cried excessively and was extremely restless, while I had various daily nightmares of her death out of nowhere. I actually began to doubt my sanity. Fortunately, at that time I met a wonderful alternative health practitioner who recommended systemic family constellations, something I had never heard of before. It was a turning point in my life, because today I know that I had such a strong connection to my little daughter that I received her innermost feelings in the form of images. During the family constellation, the representatives revealed that my daughter carried within her the feeling of not having the right to live because her brother Elias and her sister Ivy died during pregnancy. All the problems disappeared after the constellation work and the reconciliation and grieving process with what had happened.
Alexandra Akeesha Brand, born 14.03.1971
Written on November 25, 2021, and I just realized while typing the date that exactly two years ago today I separated from my ex-husband...:
Basically, there are two phases of life for me on my journey; I have just entered the second phase of my life and it often still feels quite unfamiliar.
The first phase went
for 49 years
and carries the
Headline FOG with the subtitle Lies, Narcissism and Gaslighting.
The second phase has
started at the end of 1949 and carries the
Heading SECURITY with the subtitle Honesty, Silence and ReassuranceI've been telling my friends a lot lately that I'm only now truly able to feel safe. Why? Because I'm no longer surrounded by lies, because I've broken through the veil of narcissism, manipulation, covert competition, distortion of the facts, and gaslighting (and hopefully will continue to do so). This has been true since my childhood, which I revisited with the profound shock of my ex-husband's revelations. In my second marriage, I experienced a total reflection of my unconscious childhood experiences and energy: narcissism, lies, deceit, manipulation, competition, gaslighting, confusion, masks, emotional numbness, sexual abuse, and so much more.
The beginning of the second phase of my life felt as if a heavy curtain had been pulled aside, suddenly revealing a vast space, and then you're watching your entire life story again from the beginning, but the lighting and camera angles are different. Then come the flashbacks, the clear vision, the glimpse or "letting in" of sequences from your own film that you couldn't/didn't want to perceive before… sequences that are painful, so painful that sometimes they're almost unbearable. The good thing is that I wasn't sitting in the front row anymore, but way in the back, with a healthy distance and a good dose of protection. All the pieces of the puzzle are falling into place.
I'm starting a new puzzle with 50, take good care of the completed first puzzle, I will certainly take it out many times to puzzle it again and look at it differently or in a new way, before carefully putting it away again.
Perhaps a curtain will rise again, or I will do another puzzle.
What helped me was acceptance of what is, letting go, breathing, being in the here and now, the help of my friends, feeling my emotions, constant body work, peace and slowing down, being honest and authentic, and humor.
Another big step was taken here
my blog pageThis additional step of writing things down and being transparent about myself and my work allows me to feel even more grounded. I have many healing stories to tell. Writing brings clarity and peace to both body and mind.
