Key topics/phenomena

In my own life, I have had profound experiences with the topics of being abandoned/a twin, birth trauma/experience, and narcissism. These themes have shaped me for years and through intensive study and sound training I was able to go through my own process of development. As someone who knows these challenges firsthand, I understand how deeply such issues can be rooted within oneself. From this perspective, I now offer a spacious environment, characterized by compassion, understanding, and clarity, to help you with these issues.

I will accompany you on your journey to understand and soothe the roots of your experiences - with respect for your own story and a clear focus on your resources and your strength.

Once a twin, always a twin:
What does it mean to be a surviving twin?

Many people are unaware that they originally began life as multiples. Scientific studies show that approximately 30% of all pregnancies begin as multiple pregnancies, but only a fraction of the children are actually born as twins or triplets. The loss of a twin often occurs unnoticed in the early weeks of pregnancy when the embryo is absorbed by the uterus—a phenomenon known as a "missing twin." Even though it leaves no visible physical traces, this loss can have profound emotional consequences for the surviving twin.

The emotional imprinting of a lost twin

For a half-twin, the loss of their sibling is often an unconscious but profoundly formative experience. Even before the relationship with the mother, an intense bond develops with the twin in the womb. This deep connection and love are abruptly interrupted when the twin dies. The emotional experience of this loss can become deeply ingrained in the subconscious and influence later life in many ways. Feelings of confusion, loneliness, guilt, an inexplicable longing for a missing part, or a sense of not belonging to this world are common. Often, those affected are unaware of their original multiple pregnancy but recognize themselves in the emotional patterns of a lost twin.

Typical feelings and behavior patterns



• Inner turmoil: Many half-twins oscillate between opposing emotions – joy of life and listlessness, need for closeness and withdrawal.
• Near death: Some people feel a deep connection to death, whether through a natural acceptance or a subconscious fear of it.
• Loneliness, depression, anxiety and longing: The feeling of not being complete can trigger a lifelong search for the “missing part” – be it in relationships, spiritual paths, or through unconsciously seeking twin experiences.
• Guilt and over-responsibility: Many feel unconscious guilt for not being able to save their twin and tend to feel overly responsible for others.
• Relationship dynamics: Half-twins often have unique, sometimes highly toxic, relationship patterns – they either cling intensely or avoid deep bonds for fear of further loss, or are attracted to narcissists. They may also exhibit maternal resentment or symbiosis.
  

Recognizing a lost twin



Some clues may indicate that someone is a half-twin:

• Family multiple birth story Twins in the family
• Early pregnancy complications heavy bleeding, abnormal placenta
• Physical symptoms Phenomena such as cysts with ingrown teeth and hair, bony changes at the end of the spine, a third/fourth nipple, or mummified fetuses discovered during surgery in the body of the singleton child.
• Specific emotional patterns intense longing, attachment problems, deep melancholy, high sensitivity, narcissism, toxic relationship patterns
  

The path to healing


The realization of being a lost twin can be a first, crucial step toward healing. The coaching methods I have learned, such as systemic constellations, life integration processes, and body-oriented trauma work, help to integrate unconscious memories and find a new inner balance. Consciously engaging with one's own "life script" makes it possible to release old patterns and shape one's life more freely.

Once a twin, always a twin. But that doesn't mean being trapped in pain forever. Rather, becoming aware of this deep connection can help you understand yourself better, lovingly release the lost twin, and walk your own path with new clarity.

The way out of entanglement – back to your clarity
"Truth is not always beautiful. But it is the beginning of everything that heals."

Narcissistic relationships leave their mark. Not just in thoughts and feelings – but deep within the body. I'm not writing here as a theorist. I'm writing as a woman who has walked through the fog herself. As a mother who has broken free from codependency. As a companion who today compassionately, clearly, and with profound conviction guides people on the path to disengagement from toxic dynamics.

The beginning: subtle – confusing – exhausting

Narcissistic abuse rarely begins with violence. It begins with charm. With feigned closeness. With words that hurt—and simultaneously devalue. And so, little by little, you slip into a web of guilt, doubt, exhaustion, and emotional dependency. I know how that feels. I was in a relationship with a narcissistic man for almost 15 years. I believed for too long that I I would just have to try hard enough. That I The problem is me. I ignored my intuition. I dismissed the warning signs and downplayed them as toxic. I was loyal. I loved. He swore on the lives of our four children that he was honest! – as a fundamentally honest person, I believed him unconditionally and slipped deeper and deeper into a subtle fog of deception.

The turning point

Then came that moment. A sentence that formed deep within me, bold and clear, as if written in capital letters on the wall of my consciousness:

"I am no longer available."

Not as an act of defiance. But as a decision.
Not as a struggle. But as clarity.

Slowing down, step by step from within, I arrived at this sentence and in the moment of feeling WHOLE, I was able to cut through the entanglement.

And take responsibility for why I ended up there.

Your attitude changes everything.

What happens when you confront a narcissist with the energy of "You cheated on me, lied to me, manipulated me!"? You remain focused on the outside. On the drama. On pointing fingers. You remain in the victim role.
Your nervous system is in a state of alert. You're not in touch with yourself. You're codependent.

But what if you feel completely: "I am no longer available."
You withdraw internally. You de-energize yourself. You de-couple.
You arrive at yourself. You breathe freely. And you begin to remember. You begin to accept your part in this story, completely. THAT is not pleasant!

This inner attitude changes everything. You invite in the power of self-empowerment.

What you might notice

• That you have long denied your truth
• That you loved what you hoped to have – an illusion – not what truly was
• That you abandoned yourself in order not to be abandoned yourself.
• That you clung to something that was never safe, because it's a repetition of your childhood dynamics.

And above all: that you can begin to feel yourself again.

The emotional reality

Disappointment. Anger. Despair. Heartbreak. Disbelief. Powerlessness. Shock. Grief. Shame. Numbness. Blame. Lies. Gaslighting. Confusion. Distortion. Coldness. Blindness. Abuse. Obfuscation. A physical feeling of withdrawal.

These experiences have a lasting effect – on the nervous system, in the cells, in the self-image.

But this is exactly where your journey back begins..

The reversal

Security. Clarity. Honesty. Joy of life. Self-acceptance. Protection. Boundaries. Truth. Peace. Connection. Love. Trust. These qualities are not "behind" it.
They are inside you – beneath the layers of pain, fog, and distortion.

What do you need?

All your courage. Not to fight loudly – but to quietly return to yourself. Not to convince – but to recognize. Viktor Frankl said:

"Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space lies our power to choose our response. In our response lies our evolution and our freedom."

I will accompany you in this very room.

What to expect
A space where you are allowed to speak your truth.

Someone who sees you – even between the words.

Depth, if you're ready.

Structure when you need guidance.

Stop if you're staggering.

And again and again:
the memory of it
that you You're not wrong.,
that you not too much,
that you You are not alone.

But that you begin to remember right now,
to who you truly are:
powerful, lovable, connected – and whole.

I will accompany you on this journey.
With clarity. With compassion. With experience.
Until you find peace within yourself again –
and from there you redesign your life.

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Birth as a transition for the whole family


Birth is not only the beginning of life for the child – it is also a profound threshold for mother and father, with far-reaching effects on their own systems. Motherhood and fatherhood are more than roles: they invite one to engage with one's own history, unconscious influences, and the family system.

Many parents experience the time after birth as an exceptional situation – physically, emotionally, and mentally. Sleep deprivation, feeling overwhelmed, breastfeeding problems, or regulatory disorders in the baby all affect nervous systems that are still readjusting.

Often, beneath these challenges lies a deeper issue that needs to be seen and integrated – by both parents.

The body remembers

Mothers often carry their own unresolved birth experiences within them. Many women were themselves born under difficult circumstances – prematurely, with separation after birth, unwelcome, or under medical interference. If their own child is born under similar circumstances, this old imprinting can be reactivated. Motherhood thus becomes a mirror: an energetic wake-up call that goes far beyond mere functioning. The child's soul acts as a catalyst – not out of malice, but as an invitation to wholeness.

Also for fathers: A threshold into one's own origins

While the mother physically gives birth to the child, the father also undergoes an inner birthing process – into the role of the one who holds, empathizes, and is present. This phase can be deeply unsettling and bring old childhood wounds to the surface: unresolved issues with his own father, emotional dissociation, feeling overwhelmed, or the pressure to function. Some men experience a profound emotional shock for the first time – triggered by the crying baby, their partner's helplessness, or their own memories of neglect, violence, or emotional emptiness. Here, too, the child's soul acts like a ray of light into hidden spaces – inviting healing.

Systemic awakening – together instead of separately

If this transitional period is consciously viewed, it can become a source of personal and familial growth. The goal is not perfection, but a shared foundation of awareness and inner presence.

Cesarean section as an energy-related decision

From a systemic-spiritual perspective, some children consciously choose to avoid the birth canal – often when it is symbolically associated with trauma, boundary violations, or death within the family system.
In families with unmourned miscarriages, stillbirths, abortions, or violence, the baby may perceive this route as unsafe and choose a cesarean section.

Even unconsciously stored experiences of violence – such as sexual abuse – can influence this path. Even if the memory is absent, the body carries this imprint. The baby senses it and decides: "I won't go down this path."

Birth thus becomes a psychological and spiritual act in which the family system makes its presence felt – often clearly perceptible to both mother and child. Birth trauma manifests not only in regulatory problems in the baby, but also in an inner turmoil experienced by the parents.

Invitation to integration

Birth trauma – whether in the child, the mother or the father – is a call for awareness.

If we understand birth as a multifaceted process – physical, emotional, systemic, and spiritual – we realize that it doesn't end with the baby's first cry. The body and cellular memory carry imprints from the preconception, prenatal, and early birth period.

If you are ready to look at these wounds and give yourself and your child a good start or new beginning in life, I would be happy to accompany you.

In everyday life, during times of upheaval, and in/after challenging experiences and events

Create clarity. Name feelings. Maintain a connection.

When something shifts within a family system, many levels are often set in motion simultaneously. A child suddenly exhibits unusual behavior. The mother feels exhausted and overwhelmed. The father withdraws emotionally. People talk past each other—or not at all. Tensions rise without anyone being able to pinpoint exactly what's going on.

In these moments, I accompany families like a sensitive translator between different levels: I help translate the visible symptoms – arguments, withdrawal, feeling overwhelmed, sadness – into deeper messages. What needs to be heard right now? What need has been overlooked?

Where is space needed for grief, anger, and reorientation?

I work with babies, children, teenagers, pregnant women, parents, stepparents - families in transition.

Using methods such as:

• Craniosacral bodywork & emotional regulation
• Systemic constellations & genogram work
• Media-based awareness work & intuitive process guidance
• Nonviolent Communication & Attachment Skills
  

Many people find me with topics and questions like these:

If you sense that your family is at a crossroads,

I'd be happy to accompany you.

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Dying on a small scale, becoming on a large scale – “When something ends, something new may be born”

There are times when our old life no longer fits – but the new one hasn't yet been born. We stand at an inner threshold. Something inside us is dying.
Something old needs to be let go of, mourned, and honored – before it can soften for the new. These transitions – separation, new beginnings, birth, life crises, vocation, inner shedding – are silent spaces between worlds. Spaces where we often seek support because the old no longer sustains us, but the new is not yet tangible.

I will accompany you through these transitional times.
At your own pace. At your own rhythm. With respect for what is dying – and with love and an invitation to clarity for what wants to be born. This support is not about quick fixes.
But it's about the courage to remain present.
To find meaning amidst pain.

To allow for departure and arrival – sometimes simultaneously.

My work during this phase combines:

• Trauma-sensitive bodywork for grounding and regulation
• spiritual process guidance & mediumistic consciousness work
• intuitive constellations & soul images
• Support during inner rebirth and resource work for stabilization
  

You are allowed to grieve, to doubt, to feel empty – but you don't have to walk through this darkness alone. I will hold the space so that your transformation is supported.

Transitions at the end of life – dying as a sacred threshold

Sometimes the threshold isn't just internal – it's visible. A person is dying. The time of letting go has begun. In this phase, I accompany the dying and their loved ones – with silence, mindfulness, touch, and inner peace. Whether in a hospice, hospital, or at home: I come to where you are to hold a loving space. A space where fear can subside.
In which body, soul and spirit are allowed to separate from each other – with dignity, care, and in connection.
A space where loved ones can also feel: You don't have to achieve anything. You can simply be there. Feel. Say goodbye. Love.

For me, end-of-life care means:

• Presence at the threshold between this world and the next
• Body-based, craniosacral and intuitive touch to support the transition
• Mediumistic soul work – when ancestors, spirit guides, and soul fragments reveal themselves
• Support during the grieving process – even after a sudden loss
• A space for last words, reconciliation, or simply being.

The dying process often opens a gateway: to essence, to truth, to peace.

“I want to thank Alexandra from the bottom of my heart. Through her, I was able to gain very valuable experiences; it feels as if a heavy veil has been lifted. Her empathetic guidance means a great deal to me on my path of development and self-realization. I am incredibly grateful for the knowledge that I can once again feel and perceive.”

Christiane B.

“With great empathy and sensitivity, she has helped me several times in difficult life situations, and after a few sessions in recent years, I have been able to learn many new things and positively change many perspectives. My life has been greatly enriched as a result.”

Liane S.

“Alexandra supported me through my pregnancy in 2020 with her craniosacral work. Thanks to her empathetic and calming nature, I learned to listen to my inner voice and question my self-doubt during this time, when the marathon of doctor's appointments almost drove me to despair. Thank you for walking this path with me! 🙏 (And in the end, everything was fine) 😊 Absolutely ❤️ recommended!”

Miriam R.